Truth and Openness
there is a magic in truth, and honesty, and openness
eclipsing the truth
Everything I write on this blog, at least everything I have written recently is the brutal truth. I don’t hold anything back, to the best of my ability I tell you exactly what is in my heart. The post I wrote yesterday, Why I’m Still Alive, is a case in point. I could have dressed that story up, made myself look a little better, perhaps garnered more sympathy from you. But, why would I do that? If I am going to write anything at all about myself it has to be true, and not just part of the truth, but the entire truth. There are some caveats; I am not an Ernest Hemingway nor a Philip Roth, and the format I’m writing in is a blog, and a blog post needs to be fairly short and pithy. But over and above all that, this is me, and everything I write is coloured and edited by that simple fact.
Also, but only to a certain extent, I choose what to write about. Some of my posts I just know I have to write, and they flow onto the screen without any conscious thought, those posts arise fully formed from my deepest subconscious mind. Ergo, they have to be true, because I’m not even certain that the subconscious knows how to lie.
Why write this painful stuff at all?
Because it’s therapeutic, because I like to know what you think about me and the things I have revealed to you, because if I didn’t write this stuff it would go around and around in my mind like a rat on a wheel. It’s cathartic to write the brutal truth. If I lied, or told less than the truth, then you would know, and most likely you would respect me less. However, how easy it is for people to believe the lie.
How easy it is to make people believe a lie, and how hard it is to undo that work again. ~ Mark Twain
Most liars can’t remember all the lies they’ve told, and if they’re lying by omission what they have said and what they haven’t said. It’s easy to for me to remember the truth, but if I ever lied I’d have to keep referring back to old posts.
A liar should have a good memory. And a liar’s worst enemy is someone else with a good memory. ~ Quintilian
Some say that everybody lies all the time. And that a little white lie never hurt anyone. All I know is that all lies are toxic and destructive, especially lies of omission. Trust me, I will always tell you the absolute truth.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
thou shalt not bear false witness
Complete Honesty
The truth is rarely pure and never simple. Oscar Wilde, The Importance of being Earnest
Should one always tell the truth? Do you always tell the truth to your partner? The whole truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication? Or, like most of the people on this planet are you sometimes guilty of little white lies, lies of omission, and outright bare-faced lies?
It isn’t the truth unless it’s the whole truth, and a secret is the next thing to an outright lie.
Some say that it’s easier to tell the truth to a complete stranger than it is to your partner. And, that what they don’t know can’t hurt them. All I know is that all lies are discovered eventually, and every discovered lie takes away trust. Doing things in the dark doesn’t hide them forever.
I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you. ~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Telling the truth isn’t easy. Telling the entire, and completely honest truth needs trust and commitment.
Never tell the truth to people who are not worthy of it. ~ Mark Twain
Telling the ‘Honest to God’ truth is akin to opening a Pandora’s box. One never knows what we are going to discover once the box is open. There may be things in your past that you would rather not admit to. There may be things in your past you think your partner would never understand. Whatever is in your past will come to light eventually, so why not be truthful? Yeah right, never in a million years.
My girl wants to know about me. She has asked to know my secrets and innermost thoughts. She wants to know what drives me, makes me tick, makes me who I am…
I can’t tell her any of that without telling her the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. This requires a huge leap of faith on both our parts. But, because this is something she really needs and wants from me I have to take that leap of faith without asking anything in return. Her trust and happiness will be reward enough.
Or, the things I may tell her could drive us apart. Yet I will tell her the truth, without hesitation, deviation or prevarication. They say confession is good for the soul. She will have my complete honesty. So, help me God.
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jackcollier7@talktalk.net
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