stalking is a serious crime with serious consequences

Stalking is cruel and incessant torture that can have terrifying results.  The victim of a stalker can be tormented for years, left too scared to go anywhere, to leave their home, scared of the telephone ringing, unnerved by the slightest unexpected sound.  Stalking is a crime that can paralyze an otherwise normal woman with fear, paranoia, and dread.

Your stalker is probably also an alcoholic, they have a sixth sense and know when you change your routine.  Sometimes when you plan to be far away from anywhere they would expect you to be they will come home early, or call you, or when you stop to get petrol, (gas), they will be at the same gas station.

Stalkers have an obsessive over-identification with their unwilling target but also a latent envy of their talents and beauty.  If they can’t possess the object of their obsession totally, they will destroy the victim’s qualities that they can never have.  ~  Stewart Stafford.

Stalkers are cunning.  Stalking can happen to you with or without a fear of physical violence, but it will involve verbal and mental abuse.  This is not acceptable but is very difficult to prove and the authorities will be reluctant to take strong action.  Stalking can even involve you constantly receiving flowers and other gifts, and there is fuck-all chance that the authorities will take any action over that.

Stalking also leads to threatening behaviour, physical attacks, serious sexual assault, serious physical harm, and murder.

The sad thing is that reality says that you will be your stalker’s active object of obsession for anywhere from one month to forty-some years ~ probably the rest of your sad and tortured life.  So how to win?

Trust your instincts.  Your family, friends, children will pressure you to downplay your stalker’s behaviour.  Don’t, your own safety is your #1 priority, not keeping other people happy.

Call the police if you feel in immediate, clear, and present danger.

Keep a record, a stalking diary, tape all his phone calls and any verbal contact he has with you.  Save all emails, texts, letters, photos, cards, and postings on social networking sites.  In any event, if you are being stalked get off all social networking sites.

Get a restraining order from the courts ~ your stalker will undoubtedly ignore this.

Find a victims’ group, but beware, stalkers also try to attend these groups.

Murder, or having your stalker beaten up is not a good plan for you.

There is only one effective way to defeat your stalker, and that is to bug out, do the big geographical, just plan on getting out ~ but unless you really leave your old life behind your stalker will find you.

Some say that stalking is just a serious of coincidences.  And that there is a very fine line between serendipity and stalking.  All I know is that some ex-wives, ex-girlfriends, and estranged daughters need and deserve all the protection they can get.

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jack collier

jackcollier7@taltalk.net

eventually your stalker will grab you by the throat, you don’t have to let him choke you