What is Love?
in true love infinite dreams come alive
Many have said; ‘I love you…’ when what they mean is; ‘I want you, I desire you, I need you…..’ and yet, perhaps is that not also a manifestation of love. Perhaps wanting, desiring, needing, sexual lust….. are all but facets of love. Or perhaps not, because one can love a fellow human being without it being sexual or physical. Sex is not love.
The Ancient Greek philosophers recognised six types of love, and being philosophers they may have been correct.
- Eros ~ sexual passion
- Philia ~ deep friendship
- Ludus ~ playful love
- Agape ~ love for everyone
- Pragma ~ long lasting love
- Philautia ~ love of self
Nothing being perfect, there was later #7 Storge ~ love of the child.
The author Mary McMahon outlined a round dozen different types of love; New Love, Routine Love, Disgusting Love, Infatuation Love, Friend Love, Fake Love, They’re ‘It’ Love, In It To Win It Love, Tragic Love, Parental Love, Unhealthy Love, Old People Love. As it goes; I will firmly state that none of those is a decent description or explanation of real love.
In high chivalric romance, the most perfect form of love was Courtly Love; which describes the relationship between a Knight Errant and a married noblewoman ~ his unattainable Lady Fair. This unconsummated passion was thought to be ennobling and righteous. Like most of chivalry there are numerous impossible rules surrounding Courtly Love.
Courtly Love differs immensely from the commonest form of love of them all Unrequited Love. Which, is just one step away from infatuation and stalking.
At the other end of the scale, and on the other side of the coin is Unconditional Love, which is just as dangerous and one-sided as unrequited love.
According to modern neuroscience there are 10 signs or symptoms of being in love; addiction, obsession, recklessness, lust, focus, heightened memory, eye contact, euphoria, touching, lack of judgement. Possibly, and who am I to argue with the women in white coats.
For men, I could add another sign when it comes to being in love; loss of interest in other women. I have no idea if the converse is true for women ~ I suspect not.
All of the above would seem to have elements of truth in them, which would lead one to suspect that love is a very complicated emotion, set of feelings, group of actions, slew of hormones….
I think not. I firmly believe that true love means one thing, and if you ain’t got it you’re not in love.
True love means wanting your beloved to be safe and happy, no matter what.
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
not courtly love at all
more Lancelot and Guinevere
Lockdown Love
the long dark lonely hours of passionate thoughts
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he thought he saw a female shadow in the courtyard
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he thought he heard footsteps outside his cell
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he thought he saw the door-latch move
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he thought he heard the hinges creak
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he saw the door slowly opening
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
bound and tied
she was as much a prisoner as he
delicious desires
sometimes you don’t need explanations, desire is what it is
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lust
lovers
sexuality
hot fantasies
secret encounters
steamy conversations
clandestine motel meetings
marriage commitments limitations
willfully ignoring their sexual sameness
enjoying stolen illicit moments of total bliss
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
she was the girl she dreamed of
when was just a little girl
the madness of desire
.….you should stop being so carnal, and learn to say no to men. ~ Adelaja
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animal anxiety ardour
benefits bitch bitterness
carnal courtesan covet
desire discontent distrust
eagerness ecstacy excitement
feelings fervour fuck
grope grasp grudge
harlot heat hussy
indignation insanity intensity
jaundiced jealousy tight jeans
karma kept kindness
libido love lust
madness mania mistrust
nonsensical nymphet nymphomaniac
obscene orgasmic outrage
paroxysm passion pleasure
rancour risqué romantic
screw sexuality shag slut
tart tolerance tramp
umbrage unhappiness urban-survival
vamp vixen vulgar
wanting whore welcoming
younger men
zeal zest zygote
she has animal demons inside her innocently carnal eyes
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jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
stroking her leg in public
some carnal women like that
Haunted Abandonment
enchanted lust is as a candle under a dark moon
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night soon
hard as stone
dry as a bone
far as the moon
she left me alone
the enchantress crone
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Jack Collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
dangerous women attract me
and yet
I suffer an abnormal fear of abandonment
gold coast sunset
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California coast sunset in pain meanders
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nirvana poltergeist soubrette in vain leaves
a wicked Pandora the utmost coquette in disdain lures
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she is a madonna boasting fishnet in lust with black flowers
offshore a lost vignette, just constrained emotions
the aura a ghost so forget your lost memories
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words and pictures by jack collier jackcollier7@talktalk.net
Dreams
Even grown men cry sometimes. Even grown men are blue when their dreams cannot ever come true.
There are many species of dreams. Pleasant dreams, disturbing dreams, day dreams, nightmares…
Sometimes we use the word dream when what we really mean is desire, covet, lust, passion, want, crave…
Perhaps only when we accept that some dreams are just fantasies that we can find true happiness.
Paradise is a never-never land, but there is joy to be found in the real world ~ if we accept the freedom of acceptance of what is rather than wishing for the impossible. From acceptance it is just a short step to sanity and serenity.
I can accept that all the dreams I dream with you may never come true.
words and pictures by jack collier
jackcollier7@talktalk.net
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